While walking down the street in Pondicherry it is important to be alert. With the motorcycles, cars, cows, and goats coming from every possible direction, one second of daydreaming may be terminal. The real reason I’m so alert on the street, however, is because of the smells, sounds, and colors of India. The constant honking, the sizzle of a stove, the waft of curry and spices, the steaming of idlis (soft rice cakes), and the crinkle of newspaper, which is the main thing used to wrap food on the street, are examples of the plethora of sounds and smells on the streets of Pondicherry.

Some of the best food in India is on the street. Street food is made by locals, who have been making a certain dish their entire lives, no doubt passed down through several generations. This food is also made with locals in mind—it is not dumbed down for sensitive western palates. Street food is also affordable for everybody; it’s nice to know that everyone in India can have a nice meal!

Many people find street food scary (stomach-wise). It is true they haven’t scraped the grime off the stove in several years. Oh, and there’s a mini garbage dump right by the kitchen. I’m not convincing you, am I? But these are ancient recipes, perfected on the side of the road to make the perfect combination of spices and flavors, and if you get sick . . . oh well, it is damn worth it. This food may not be served in the comfort of a restaurant, but this is some of the best food I’ve had in India, and that’s saying a lot.

Ok, I’m off to get some street chai.

Aurelie and I would like to share with you some of the children we have grown to know over the last 2 weeks at SALT Children’s Home in Tamil Nadu… These children were found living on the street with no adult support, food or education. At SALT they are given a safe home and a chance to live and play as children. Check back at: http://www.SALTchildrenshome.org (the site will be up this week)

Nishanti and Saran

This is Nishanti (9) but we know her better as ‘Roje’ (Rose) because of her beautiful nature and spirit. She is one of the only girls at the SALT Children’s Home and is living here with her brother Saran (7). Both children came to the live at SALT when their father could no longer look after both of them by himself after they lost their mother to Tuberculosis. The children enjoy playing in the tent they built in their backyard and sharing afternoon cookies.

Venugopal

Venugopal (13) has been living at SALT for the past four years after his mother fell sick to HIV. As one of the older children at SALT, he keeps a watchful eye over the rest of the children, making sure the cars stop when they cross the road after school. Venugapopal loves to learn and he can often be seen bright-eyed and smiling.

Prakesh

The youngest of the SALT Children’s Home is Prakesh (6) but he is by no means the smallest, with great charisma and full of energy, he stands out in a crowd. Prakesh came to SALT when he was found sleeping alone on the streets and begging for food and money. Although young he is very talented and loves to draw pictures.

Selvam

The newest member to SALT is Selvam (8) who came to the home when his mother who is living alone and working as a servant could no longer provide for him. Selvam loves to get involved and can be usually found spending time with Anitha one of SALT’s child guardians and English teachers.

Dinesh

Dinesh (9) was rescued from his life working on the streets after the death of both his parents. He spent his days as a watchdog for businesses conducting illegal activities and when he came to SALT he was dangerously undernourished and emaciated. Now, Dinesh loves doing weekly Karate lessons and has grown both physically and mentally stronger since his time as a street child.

Thank you for taking the time to read all of these children’s stories…

Before I started this project I was so concerned with what I thought the children would be feeling as a result of the unimaginable hardships they have faced, neglected and abandoned and living with no one to love and care for them. But working with SALT I can see that these children are full of life, love and kindness.

With no money or support from the government, SALT scrapes by every month with just enough money for food and the capacity to send the children to school. In April this year they face eviction from their home, the home that has housed 35 children for the last nine years. SALT’s vision for a better life for the children is something Aurelie and I are hoping to make a reality…

Nevertheless, amongst all the seriousness, when we are spending time with the children we can’t help but laugh, their smiles and happiness are rather contagious!

Sybilla

The word gay initially meant to be really happy. In SCOHD territory, this fact is one of the few moments when this is true.

/Julle

Padmanabane Lalidamballe has been the Managing Trustee of ADECOM Network since 1998. She grew up in the outskirts of Pondicherry and holds both a Bachelor’s and a Master’s degree in Economics. Throughout high school, college and graduate school she volunteered for a local literacy campaign and, upon receiving her Master’s and another certificate in teaching, she taught in a local village for one year while simultaneously volunteering at ADECOM. She then decided to join ADECOM full-time in 1995. She is married to her co-worker and Kootu-k-kural director Perumal, is a devoted Buddhist (though she believes her faith to be more a values system and, in her words, a “way of life” than a “religion”), and is an ambitious, headstrong, hard-working and incredibly inspiring woman.

Below are a couple excerpts from my interview yesterday with Ms. Lalidamballe. Until now, I’ve never had the opportunity to talk with an Indian woman about her personal life, and I certainly didn’t expect to break that streak with my supervisor. Of course, while I suspect that Ms. Lalidamballe’s particular experience is out of the ordinary—even highly so—her love story is no less real. (For utmost verisimilitude, I have transcribed the interview almost exactly as it was recorded.)

— Claire

Ms. Lalidamballe: I am especially proud of the Dalit emancipation project, and we were really conscious of how this project would empower women and develop feminist values. Basically, I am a feminist. In the beginning I don’t want a family life and to live like an ordinary woman, so I practiced this for some years, some years means ten to twelve years, but after that I suddenly changed my opinion when I met Perumal, and we decided why don’t we marry each other and continue the same way of work? In my family everyone is married and they always ask me why I didn’t want to marry, I think you know about the Indian marriage and family situation, the parents don’t accept it when you live alone, but my mother accepted it, she accepted everything about me, but when I met Perumal. . . . He joined ADECOM in 1998, so after a few years only we decided why don’t we marry?

Q: Do you find it difficult to be married to a person you work so closely with?

Ms. Lalidamballe: Actually my mind at that time was not to accept any man, in my young life I did not want to accept a man, this was my condition, when I looked at any man I said, you are not good for women’s rights, so I never accepted a man’s participation or the . . . how can I say this . . . his kindness. I didn’t think that men would show any kindness to women. Being a woman means you have to develop yourself, so that was in my mind, maybe this happened because of my opinion of men in India, in India there is the patriarchal system, the men always marry two or three girls, and I don’t want this kind of life. In some families the men drink a lot and beat the women, even educated women are not respected, so I saw all this in my friends’ houses and my relatives’ houses and this gave me the notions I had. I talked with men, that’s different, but personally I didn’t want to relate with a man as a husband. Perumal and I talked a lot about my notions, and then I had a small accident—I broke my hand and it was difficult for me to write and take care of myself, and I needed someone’s help, but in my family everybody had their own work. So I thought, how can I go on and work while my hand gets better, and then Perumal came to my home and took care of me for three months or four months, can you imagine that? So slowly this relationship formed. [Laughs.] So then I think that I understood that someone needed to take care of me and help me take care of myself, and after that I realized I wanted to share my life with him. But without a marriage the parents were not happy. Maybe now it is more accepted to live with friends and not be married, but my parents and his did not accept that, so we married, for that reason, and for no other reason. And so we married and accepted each other and he gave me the space to do my own work. Because when you marry sometimes the man does not accept that you will do your own work, that was my main fear, but nothing was disturbed with my life and I have continued my work until now. I’m enjoying my personal life as well as my working life.

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Q: Did your family pay a dowry?

Ms. Lalidamballe: Yeah, this is a normal practice but it depends on the family. If you are rich you have to pay more, if you are poor you will pay less, and according to their level they send their gift. But my marriage was something different, so I did not give anything to Perumal, I asked them to give some dowry to me, I don’t want to give! And Perumal’s mother said okay. Normally the girl will give to them but my mother-in-law gave a small gift to me, so I loved that, and so my mother gave a small gift too.

Being in India is like looking through a kaleidoscope spinning. Images are so striking and changing at every turn.

And much like a kaleidoscope, the dominant or framing shape has been the circle. However different in variation and size; circles have stood out to me, especially when reflecting on this “new” year.

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You see literal circles everywhere in India: In the patterns drawn in flour every morning outside homes, hallowed out bamboo, the red itching welts from mosquito bites all over our bodies, the smiling eyes of the beautiful children, we sit in circles during our seminars, Auroville itself shaped like a spinning universe… I think you get the idea.

But what is more pervasive are the intangible circles; life as a cycle (constant birth death and re-birth), the whole concept of time changes from being linear to circular here, the friendships forming and the experience with the various organizations that we are working with are circular (giving and taking, sharing and learning), many people here speak in circles often converging on the spiritual.  My thoughts have been in a constant spin cycle since we arrived.

There is something about this place that naturally encourages questions and curiosities of what it means to be human.  People here are purposefully playing and juggling their lives to strike a balance.

In this whirling world I have decided to look at this year as last year recycled, with different opportunities based what I value and previous choices. I hope we all find what we are looking for.

Alok and a couple women of Cuppa Chai

Arriving from Brazil, the Portuguese introduced cashews to India about 500 years ago.  The lucrative crop was able to take root in the deforested regions around Auroville and many farms sprang up.

Processing cashews is difficult.  There are many labor problems such as stealing, and large amounts of DDT are sprayed at farms around Tamil Nadu.

Alok, a native Aurovillian, expanded his tea processing venture to include organic cashew production about four years ago.  His business, called Cuppa Chai, is focusing on natural cashew processing– for which in Auroville there is a demand; it is directly related to the immediate region, and it’s just plain profitable.

Architectural plans have been drawn up for a larger, multi-story complex to produce more cashews, to be constructed when the price of building materials go down sometime in 2011. However, the downside is that they will then need to use less natural means to process the cashews, such as more machines for steaming and drying.

The sustainability of natural products is dependent on economic viability; as the soil becomes less nutrient rich and yields less, farmers around Auroville are starting to turn away from growing these delicious cashews.

De-shelling cashews

To prepare for this, Alok is trying to develop organic fertilizers to enhance the yield and growth of organic foods.

As of now, Cuppa Chai processes the cashews by hand, steaming the shells to make them easier to open.  Only three highly specialized women at Cuppa Chai do this,  processing about 55 kilos per day.  Cashews are then peeled and dried out in temporary cases via the sun.

Sun Drying Cashews

Cuppa Chai is the only place where I have ever heard of this process before.  Using their own recipe, the cashews are covered in sand, which when laid out in the sun, are able to heat the insides of the nuts without damaging the outside.

Whole cashews are typically sold as is.  Broken cashews are in high demand for products such as cashew butter.  The shells are even sold for their oils.

Our group devoured the sample of sand-roasted cashews given to us on our visit.  I should know, being one of the people holding the tray out to everyone, while trying simultaneously to take pictures and notes.  Natural food processing is also a balancing act.  We hope that Cuppa Chai is able to increase their production while continuing with their quality and environmentally friendly ways

Alok

I hate New Years Eve.  It seems silly to say, and I have spent a lot of time trying to figure out why this night is so difficult for me.

I am one lucky duck—all over the world, I have people that I love.  Unfortunately, I can’t be in several different places at once.  I always have to choose between different places; in the past, it was New York vs. Chicago.  This year, it was Paris vs. India.

I chose to come to India this year, not knowing with whom I would be spending Christmas and New Years with.  This is perhaps my favorite quality about myself—I am not afraid to take chances or do things on my own.  Perhaps this makes me adventurous, maybe crazy… probably a bit of both.

I spent this past Christmas dancing flamenco under the stars with new friends.  And although it was not planned, I said goodbye to 2010 by eating one of the most fantastic dinners, prepared by one of the most kind and silly restaurant owners I’ve ever met, selflessly offered to us by a new friend and mentor.

I rang in 2011 on the back of a motorcycle on the side of the road in India.  With fireworks just 50 feet away, and a mix of new friends and strangers hugging, dogs barking, and passer-bys honking, that familiar sense of dissatisfaction sank in.

I wish I could be in a thousand different places at once the moment the clock strikes midnight; ideally, I would be in a room with all of my best friends and loved ones, hugging and kissing and celebrating with them all.

I am thankful for the wonderful people that I have spent the past 2.5 weeks getting to know.  How lucky are we to have such a fun group of kind-hearted and like-minded people?  If I had to spend New Years with 25 people I didn’t know 3 weeks ago, I’m glad it was with all of them.

I can only hope that this next year will be as adventurous and silly as it’s been so far.  And just to put it out there, my New Years Resolution is to keep my room cleaner.  Fingers crossed.

For me being a young man of 21 years, I could not experience much more freedom when I stroll around in India. I can wear pretty much whatever I want, people always address me and listen to what I say and I do not get ogled at when I go to the beach. For my female classmates however, the truth is completely different. They have to hide parts of their body so they won’t be stared at in the streets, they can get completely ignored when asking for something and most obviously of all, when they go to a public beach, you better believe that every Indian man passing by stares without blinking. As a person with values of gender equality, I get very distraught and upset by this fact, but at the same time I feel helpless since I do not really know how to help my classmates feel more comfortable since it is hard for me put myself in their situation.

I have however in these last few days begun, to a small extent, sensing the feeling of being objectified. At my project organization, there is a lot of older men and men in my age who want to be friendly and social with me, since they do not have many white males visiting their organization. Yet, without them probably realizing it, they keep scanning my body and my face and, if they get an opportunity, touch me. This makes me feel objectified and uncomfortable, but at the same time, it also makes me realize something important. For the first time in my life, albeit in a small way, I know the feeling of discomfort a woman can feel in a gender underdevelopment country.

 So suddenly I realize why there is almost never any Indian or foreign woman at the crowded beaches and why no one reacts that men go practically naked at the beach, but the few women that accompany them have fabric covering them everywhere. I realize why the women you meet at the streets are shy and reserved while the men are almost too social and rather intimidating at times. I realize how the importance of getting a male child in the Indian society has made the gender view on India forget about the position of women and created a 60-40% division of the sexes between men and women in large parts of India.

 This experience, while tough and uncomfortable, has showed me the lesson of the large gender differences in the world and how quickly ones reality can change by just moving from point A to point B.

/Julle

Besides doing the photography project at the ‘drop in’ centre in Pondi, i also join the volunteers on trips to the slums or the garbage dump. Especially the last one made an impact on me. A place full of dirt, diseases, sadness but also laughter. It’s a whole different world out there. This community of gypsies and migrants have their own routine and ways of keeping themselves alive.

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During a fieldtrip we were noticed by a journalist from the Dinakaran Daily. The photography project is a big success and i’m very happy that i could help to get KALKI some publicity! The people from KALKI are wonderful big hearted people with never ending energy and a passion when it comes to creating a happier and better life for the streetkids of pondicherry.

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